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This question has a tendency to come up often in regard to polygyny, but interestingly not to the same degree in monogamy. Just as in monogamy, there are various approaches to how two people operate within their union, and how that relationship is sustained financially, there can be varied approaches in polygyny as well. The key is that if the adults in the union, whether it is monogamy or polygyny, are in agreement in how they choose to operate, and the operation can be said to be functionally successful as to what the participants intended, then all is well. People are free to do whatever they choose to, obviously. People should also have access to the resources and tools needed in which to do what they choose to. When those resources are not present or available, this reality check should be faced, and the potential participants need to assess the situation and determine what they need in order to successfully operate in the desired paradigm with which they foresee, and have a plan with which to establish these resources, which may in some cases be reliant on access to finances.
One of the definitions of "Husband" is "a prudent and frugal manager of resources". No matter how much money a man makes, or how many resources he has, if he cannot properly manage them in order to achieve his objectives and maintain his operations, he will fail. A man with more, may fail in that which a man with less, may be successful, due to proper frugal management. Do the basics. What are your goals? How much do you need in finances and resources to reach them? Your answer will tell you how much of what things you need.
Resources do not always mean money. No one should begin any endeavor that calls for resources in which they do not have. Gain the resources first, and then begin the operation. A man needs to be able to fund or establish necessary resources for any endeavor he chooses to venture into, including a marriage. How he funds his endeavor is up to him and those who choose to cooperate with him. If he however has not the ability or capacity to provide any resources for his endeavors, he should be focused primarily on developing his ability to provide resources first for himself, in good consistent measure, and then in consideration of others, even within a team oriented environment.
We do not condone any man using polygyny as a source of his own provision. Meaning, a man who is unable to provide a decent living for himself, utilizing polygyny as a way to have wives providing for and taking care of all his provisions. Polygyny is not to be used as an escape route from one’s own incapacity to support themselves.
Afford, being that it is not always based on finances, can also be related to other things. Does a man have time, attention, knowledge, wisdom, health, stamina, good character, integrity, etc.? All these things and more also have to do with his ability to successfully engage in relationships. Polygyny in many cases raises the bar on a man being well rounded in these areas and to maintain balance within himself.
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